5 Basic Styles Of Tantrums

Each of these 5 types of tantrums are unique, exciting and can be dealt with systematically. Study your child and build a diary noting situations and reasons why they are frustrated. Once we could recognize what type of 'outburst' our kids were having, we were better able to deal with them and get to the heart of the matter.

During a full out toddler-fit, our children were never receptive to any instruction, so we needed a quick strategy specific to the type of tantrum for everyone's peace of mind. We hope this breakdown will help you as much as it has helped us with our kids.

"The Pushover"
This child will start with a soft whimpering cry fest
Affirm their feelings of frustrations
Their crying fit can be stopped virtually immediately
Firmly and lovingly inform them this behavior is unacceptable
"The Resilient"
This child will go on forever without missing a beat
They believe they are in charge,no talking/'reasoning' will work
Keep this child out of range of your wedding china
Remove them to a controlled time out and wait it out
"Drop, Lay, Roll"
This child will use tactics to show their disappointment
Silence or scowling behind crossed arms, collapsing down to the floor
Lying down in a fit, rolling around & screaming to get their way
Removal works great to calm down without entertaining everyone
Talk and reason with them only once they have cooled down
"The Deep Sea Diver"
This child is going for a new breath holding world record
They may add tightening and contorting their face & body
A frustration foot stomper, fists and teeth clencher
Quick claps to interrupt their fixation can 'snap' them out to re-focus
Never shake the deep sea diver, simply remove to cool off
"The Whining Pouter"
This child starts quickly with their 'whine-fest'
They expect you will buckle under their constant whining
Trust me on this one, you'll want to give in to them to make it stop
Move them out of ear shot & give some down time to calm down
If ever in doubt or frustrated with the tantrum and the situation, remove them into a controlled time out, wait until both of you are calm and then work it out.

When it is over, talk to them about what they were upset about, what attention behavior you would prefer and repeatedly let them know you love them but disapprove of their choice of behavior.

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